The plight of the Single Mom still weighs heavy in our community. Talk television has successfully down-played the seriousness with its satire of the term “Baby Mamma”; feeding our animalistic need to tap into other peoples misery.
Who could have predicted a simple phrase such as, “You are not the father” would be such an inter-woven part of our culture? The focus of fatherless children has shifted from responsibility to entertainment. As the Mother parades on stage wearing the Scarlet letter on her forehead, fault is never found in the Men who participated in unprotected sex as well. As Men celebrate, hi-five each other and shout simultaneous vulgarities at Scarlet Woman; no one considers the child is still void a Father.
How is it that a man can create a child from his seed and carry-on through life as if that child does not exist? Men, you have to stop treating your children as if they are disposable! Understand that once you insert yourself inside of a woman with no protection, YOU are responsible for whatever happens next! There are no excuses for not caring for a life you created. I know there are women out there who make it nearly impossible for you to be a father, but that’s your cross to bear and I feel no sorrow.
The sons of our Community are out there shooting one another because you allowed the streets to be their Mentor. The daughters of our Community are becoming Mothers too young because you allowed strangers to teach her what love is.
You see when children are treated as if they are disposable; they treat others as disposable Beings. Fathers, it’s time for you to step up and step in place as Mentors and Leaders for your children.
This week I’m asking the question: What happens when Fathers walk away? I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl !
OMG, SO how true is this? I am so tired of the sorry men out there, who don’t even deserve the title father. What happen to the men who want to work and support their family, instead of laying up with they baby mama waiting on her county check? This situation is so sad, that it sickens me, but to all the single mothers out there, I know you don’t want to hear it, but keep your head up and enjoy your children. Don’t let the down fall of a ragedy man hold you from enjoying your children, because you are constantly arguing and pitying yourself. File that child support…I don’t care if he don’t have a job, someday he will have to get a job, or he might win the lottery, and that check come to you, he might win a lawsuit, but your back pay comes to you first. Don’t worry about him working under the table, because he will forever be uneasy , uncomfortable, and never live a peaceful life, with the burden of back pay lingering over his head. But what we can do is appreciate the one’s who take care of the children who are not even their’s, give him the love, the kindness of woman and the respect and enjoy. Don’t let that bum ass baby daddy steal that joy, he didn’t even know he controlled.
ALWAYS SPEAKING THE TRUTH
MS. NAY
I agree. I would also like to point out how its only single women that are stigmatized. If a woman is walking through a mall with her child she is considered the irresponsible baby momma. On the other hand, if a man is walking through the mall with his children people stop and congratulate him for doing it alone. True he does deserve applause, but shouldn’t a single mother receive the same applause?
Niece of mine – how ya doing? Just one note re your intro- there are no fatherless children. I think that to some extent we minimize it when we say there are. We need to call them what they are – deadbeats.
@ Uncle Melvin you are right, there are no Fatherless children. That sounds too kind.
@twesajr you just gave me an idea for another topic. So true is it that Men are praised for doing what they are supposed to do in the first place. There are so many Great Men in our community who do step up to the plate but the media chooses to show the ones who are DEADBEATS for entertainment. I don’t watch any of those shows. I stopped years ago because I felt the portrait being painted of urban families are so unbalanced.