The moment you read my question you probably thought I had officially lost my mind…yeah, I know what you’re thinking too. No, I haven’t lost mind and yes, I said it! YOU need to LET your Husband have his girlfriend.
Remember when you used to be his girlfriend years ago? You did what ever you had to do to make sure you were available to answer his phone calls. When you said “hello” into the receiver the tone of your voice changed immediately to a sultry purr. He knew he was Daddy and Daddy couldn’t wait to see his Girlfriend. He loved when you used to wear those low cut tops and the “girls” peeked out just enough to tantalize. He was licking his lips enjoying that appetizer. Then when you turned to walk away from him and swayed your ass the only way a sista’ can, he was hypnotized. You were flawless in your simulation of cluelessness.
Why did you stop being his Girlfriend?
I applaud you for being a wonderful Mother to your children as well as a faithful, dedicated wife to your Husband, but it’s not enough. In your quest to accomplish one goal, you lost sight of the basics which is being your husband’s Girlfriend. Take your mentality back to Girlfriend mode, when you were fighting for his last name. You wanted to feed him, nurse him, nurture him, sex him, taste him and love him. You wanted him deep inside you and while he was there you kept him going talking all nasty in his ear.
Why did you stop being his Girlfriend?
You don’t always have to cook a 3 course meal & tire yourself out before Daddy comes home. Order take-out, skip the laundry and put the kids to bed early. If you can’t get them to bed, be creative. Put on their favorite DVD and take your husband to the bathroom for a quickie. If you really want to keep it sexy and Girlfriend-ish, Go Deep and watch that sparkle return to his eyes.
Are you ready to let him have his Girlfriend? …..Holla at ya Gyrl !
Godspeed
~Latoya~
Tags: dating, girlfriend, husband, kids, marriage, Relationships, Sex, sexy, wife
When I first read the title I thought to myself, “Man, ain’t no way in hell I am going to let my man have a girlfriend!!” After reading the next sentence and realized where you were heading I thought it was pretty insightful and true about us as women. We fight, work, and tire ourselves out to be everything to him by securing our “see-what-kind-of-wife-you-can-have-with-me” position in his life and lose track of our ability to be attractive, sexy, and carefree. I am first to admit that I am guilty of being the “Super Woman” in my man’s life, but I also remember the importance of competing for his attention that keeps him coming home and not in the clubs or the streets. Ashanti says it best that when you got the Good Good don’t worry, he’ll be back!
Ladies I know we like to keep our hair tight for the next working day, but don’t have your man coming home to a scarf tied on your head every night. You can still do your Super Womanly duties but we all need to lessen our loads and prepare to have a 1-night stand with our men. Do things that you normally are not open to and be as adventurous as he would be with another woman if you keep telling him no or stop! Keep him wanting to be at home. I have proven this practice effective because my man went to the club with his friends the other night and spent the majority of his time texting and calling me telling me how much he missed me and wanted to come home because he missed my scent! Now, that’s some Good Good for your ass!!
Women, take good care of your homes and even better care of your men…”Girlfriends”!
Its funny because when I saw the title of the blog I thought that you had really lost it. But I think that this is important and I am glad you brought it up. I have heard that many women just get too comfortable. (I havent actually been married yet, so I can only speak from what I hear) Its like they already have what they want so they dont have to work at it anymore. But I feel like women need to stay competitive. Like my momma told me, “Whatever you don’t give him he will definitely get from somebody else.” And I am a firm believer in that saying. Even when you just have a boyfriend, you have to be competitive or they will find someone else.
And Radiance. LOL. That exact same song by Ashanti came to my mind too.
TJ
It’s not about looking like a Beauty Queen everyday until death do you part. This whole topic is about NOT LOSING YOUR SEX APPEAL. It can be as easy as combing your hair and glossing your lips before he comes home. Being playful with him while your cooking dinner and getting out those Granny panties and wearing your thong, boy shorts, or low cut bikini briefs. Let him see you prance around in those heels…As for me personally, those who know me know I grew up tom-boy, not doing a lot of girly things BUT once I started embracing my womaness, I fell in love with heels. I feel most sexy when I am wearing my boy-short and a pair of high high heels.
~Latoya~
Latoya,
I understand that you are talking about Sex Appeal. What would you suggest to someone who isnt in a relationship? Are there certain tips you would give a single woman to help her get more attention or to just have Sex Appeal in general?
~TJ
Hey T.J.
Not being in a relationship gives you a good advantage. You can take your time and discover what makes you feel sexy. Start pampering yourself. Get your hair done and wear it down. Buy some pretty bra and matching panty sets. You don’t have to go to Victoria Secret. J.C Penny and other bargain stores always have pretty lingerie on sale and for all budgets (I buy them so I know). Go out with your friends and try on different clothes. You don’t have to buy. Going with a gyrlfriend will prevent you from picking out the same kind of clothes you wear every day. After you put your baby to bed, relax in the tub. I love bubble baths and meditating in the tub. Sleep in something that makes you feel sexy. Not the bulky t-shirt, but maybe your underwear and a camisole. When you wake up look at yourself in the mirror. Appreciate your backside, the shape of your body, even the way the light hits your skin. Get out and socialize! Not 24/7 but give yourself permission to claim some gyrlfriend time and be around the opposite sex.
I have been married a long time and I still do everything I just told you. I have to be one with my sex appeal because sometimes my Husband doesn’t even notice me unless I put on the boy shorts, and accidently “drop” the remote control on the floor in front of him. When I bend over to pick it up it’s like someone woke him up from a daze
~Latoya~
WoW….
Give me a min. I would love the opportunity to chime in.
Latoya… I really want to say somthing to you.
I am tired now but tomorrow we have a CPU date. lol
Im just saying
W.
I hope some woment take your advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Greetings from England. This is a nice site. Does anyone have any advice about staying out of the friend zone with girls? Honestly I’m sick of women telling me they just want to be friends. Perhaps I’m being too much of a nice guy?
The responses on this were great for me. My partner made a comment one night while drinking n us joking around that “not a lotta guys go for the whole boy short thing” ,I got defensive n let him know that if he don’t appreciate me for me (still embarrassing my femininity, grew up very tom boy n virginal) there is always someone who will! We discussed it the next day, he’s bringing my inner freak out n his pasts were very, um……….superficial n plastic! I on the other hand am more around the way! I loved the boy shorts n heals comments! That’s how I feel sexist. I’ve left a comment on a previous blog telling u how ur honesty, inner freak, n seemingly traditional views of the man in our homes makes me feel like you read my thoughts! Love ur stuff!
G.G..Thank you so much. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and paying me the compliment.
both Rihanna and Ashanti have that unique and very buautiful voice-:~
I did think you had lost it for a moment. But as I read on I realized that you’re keeping sisters on their feet. The clean up woman ain’t no joke ladies.
Being a Newbie, I’m usually on the lookout on-line for blogs with content that will help me.
These comments take the cake.
me and my sister always love the music of Ashanti,she is also a very beautiful singer.
vibrator…
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