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By: nick carpenter

nick carpenter — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 19:12:08 +0000

good one toya!!!women have to realize every single man they date or see is totally different in areas.however,where he is strong at…appreciate it…where he is weak at talk to him an help him work on it…not chastize an disrespect.i have always been strong of critcism an can dish it out as well as take it….men who are weaker in those area may walk out the door…does that make me stronger than he…no …..we will never no because once the fire has been spit or seed has been planted …possibly wonderful relationships are ruined behind of a womans previous relationship woes or mean previous woes.value who u are with for what they are ,who they are…and why u love them.we all have are issues….when your car makes a funny rumbling noise do u still get to work on x???does that make it a bad car??does it get you home an to cash ya check???ladies you cant keep buying a new car everytime something goes wrong…!peace!

By: MS.NAY

MS.NAY — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 17:59:12 +0000

AND THE COMMENT I LEFT IS NOT A PERSONAL ATTACK AGAINST BIG DADDY, YOU KNOW NOW DAYS YOU HAVE TO BE SERIOUSLY CLEAR, BECAUSE THE WORLD IS SO SENSITIVE, AND CRY BABIES, IN GENERAL BIG DADDY , BUUUUTTTTT IF THIS SCENARIO IS FITTING YOU, THAN YEAH I GUESS IM TALKING ABOUT YOU…..

MS. NAY(KEEPING IT REAL)

By: MS.NAY

MS.NAY — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 17:56:33 +0000

OH THE OTHER RACE, OKAY THAN HE NEEDS TO BE MORE CLEAR, BECAUSE I WAS NOT FEELING THAT, SO I CAN ADMIT WHEN I AM WRONG, MY BAD MR. BIG DADDY, BUT LIKE ME EXPRESS HOW I FEEL ABOUT THAT, GOING TO THE OTHER SIDE. WELL I HAVE DON’T SEE A PROBLEM WITH THAT IF THAT IS YOUR PREFERANCE, BUT WHEN YOU GO THERE BECAUSE IT IS SAID ALL BLACK WOMEN ARGUE AND FIGHT, WELL NOW THAT BECOMES A PROBLEM, BECAUSE NOW YOU ARE DISCRIMINATING AGAINST US, NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE FIGHTERS AND STRONG OPINIONATED, ALOT OF US WOMEN KNOW HOW TO BALANCE THINGS OUT, BE STRONG WHEN NEEDED AND TAKE THE BACK SEATED WHEN IT NEEDED, ALOT OF WHITE WOMEN FUSS AND FIGHT ALSO, IT IS ALL ABOUT WHO YOU GET. NOW IF YOU LIKE OTHER RACES MORE POWER TO YOU, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, BUT WHEN YOU SAY YOU ARE GOING TO THE OTHER SIDE BECAUSE OF HOW BLACK WOMEN ARGUE AND FIGHT, I THINK THAT IS JUST A COPE OUT , AND A WEAK MAN.
MS.NAY (KEEPING IT REAL)

By: El Cid

El Cid — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 18:18:54 +0000

TIME OUT!!! Why is everyone getting so bent out of shape? I see a lot of I, I, I…saying “what I would do if that were me”.

X-PRESS: You’re Right…because that is your outlook on how it should be.
“Fight for what you believe to be ‘your true love’”. Fight long/hard enough for it and everything will (hopefully) work out.

Big: You’re also correct, because the “rules of engagement” don’t “miraculously” change between relationships. Meet, court/hook-up (or whatever you want to call it), then become an exclusive pair. No outsiders allowed. Any fighting to be done, should have been caught before becoming an item together.

Either way…This is a total judgement call by the individual in “their” relationship. REMINDER: the topic is, “I DON’T NEED A MAN”, not I Don’t Need a Man to My Mind Up For Me.

Some Fight…Some Don’t. Situational position in a relationship is a compromise. Like it or not, we each bring into EVERY relationship we enter, that Emotional Baggage of what WE (individually) think a relationship should be. Whether its not to be a deadbeat dad like “my” father was or not to be overbearing like “my” parents were or not to be abusive to “my” kids like “my” mom was. Whatever it is, we try to improve and be better than the dysfunctional relationships that we witnessed or were a part of in OUR early years.

And the bottom line should be what “your” expectations are for that particular man or woman in your life, and not “your prior relationships.

By: wordsRmylife

wordsRmylife — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 18:10:58 +0000

Nay- I have to defend BIG DADDY because I think by “the other way” he meant outside of our race (Black Women) and into other races………White Women!

By: BIG DADDY

BIG DADDY — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 17:09:07 +0000

Nay Nay- WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By: MS.NAY

MS.NAY — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 07:49:05 +0000

WELL GOODNESS GRACIOUS IT APPEARS I HAVE MISSED OUT ON ALOT, SORRY MY PEOPLE BUT I HAVE BEEN VERY BUSY, BUT I DO COME BACK TO AN INTERESTING TOPIC AND INTERESTING COMMENTS, AND YOU KNOW ME, LET’S BREAK THIS DOWN, FIRST I READ THE COMMENT FROM BIG DADDY SAYING MAYBE BECAUSE OF ALL THE FIGHTING, THIS IS WHY MEN GO THE OPPOSITE WAY…WOOOHHH COWBOY, I KNOW MEN WHO WILL FIGHT WITH EVERY WOMAN ON THE PLANET BEFORE THEY GO THE OTHER WAY, BUT A MAN WILL NEVER GO THE OTHER WAY UNLESS HE IS PLAIN AND SIMPLE GAY, NO BI CURIOUS, NON OF THAT CRAP WE WANT TO SAY TO SOFTEN IT UP, BECAUSE THE NANA HAS A POWER, AND HE MIGHT NOT WANT TO ARGUE SO HE JUST GO OUT AND FIND MORE NANA, NOT GO THE OTHER WAY. NOW I DO AGREE WITH YOU ABOUT MEN ARE TO LEAD AND WOMEN ARE TO FOLLOW AND SUPPORT, BUT ALOT OF US ARE TOO BUSY TRYING TO LEAD ALSO, EVEN WITH THAT WHEN TWO MEN GET TOGETHER, WHO IS THE LEADER, BUT ANYHOOT, I DO BELIEVE THAT, BUT I ALSO THINK THE PROBLEM IS , THAT ALOT OF US BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN LEADING FOR SO LONG IT IS HARD TO LET GO, NOT THAT WE DON’T WANT TO LET GO, BUT YOU FINALLY GET CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE FROM ALL DRAMA AND CHAOS AND YOU FINALLY SETTLED AND HERE COMES THIS MAN AND YES HE MIGHT BE A GOOD MAN, BUT YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO LET GO,,,,WHY? NOT BECAUSE WE WANT TO ARGUE, BUT BECAUSE WE ARE SCARED. UNDERSTAND FEAR CAUSES ALOT OF DRAMA, YOU ARE SCARED TO TAKE THAT CHANCE AGAIN AND HAVE TO START ALL OVER. BUT THE TOPIC IS DIFFERENT AND I FEEL SOME WOMEN DONT REALLY NEED A MAN AND ARE VERY CONTENT WITH OCCASSIONAL BOOTY CALLS, I DONT CONDONE IT , BUT HEY, I FEEL US AS A PEOPLE ARE EQUALLY THE BLAME FOR THIS, I THINK WHEN WOMEN SAY THEY DONT’ NEED A MAN, I DON’T THINK THEY DONT NEED A MAN TO LOVE THEM, TO TAKE CARE OF THEM, THEY ARE SAYING THEY DONT’ NEED TO RAISE A MAN, IF HIS MAMA DIDN’T DO IT, THAN DAMIT, KEEP IT MOVING, I THINK SOME WOMEN ARE JUST TIRED OF THE B.S, YOU KNOW THE SAYING “I CAN DO BAD BY MYSELF”, AS WOMEN WE JUST DON’T NEED NO MORE ADDED RESPONSIBLITIES WITH CLEANING, COOKING, TAKING CARE OF THE KIDS, GOING TO WORK, HAVING A PERIOD EVERY MONTH AND THAN TO HAVE A MAN THAT DON’T STEP UP AND TAKE CHARGE, WHEN YOU HAVE IT UNDER CONTROL, YOU SORT OF DON’T WANT TO TAKE THAT RISK, BUT THAT IS NOT ME,,,,,,SISTER GIRL NEED A MAN FOR ALL KIND OF STUFF…..
MS.NAY “KEEPING IT REAL”

By: X -Pres

X -Pres — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 03:30:31 +0000

Damm… A lot is been said in such a short time.

Toya, thanks for feeling me, and Big or Daddy you took me way off point. A feel half of what you are saying but, but we split at the end.

I feel that WE come into a (true) relationship with expectations, You have a ideal of what a wife/girlfriend is, and she has an ideal of what a husband/boyfriend is, then after five or six years (for some 2 to 3 years) you realize that you both were way off point. In today’s setup we have set the standard to just start all over, hit the club, by her a drink, “BAM” your back in business. But that gets old quick especially when you see her or him with someone else, and you see them happy like you use to be happy, and then the sad part you look over a see the substitute, the quick fix that was to help you get over her or him.
But guess what it didn’t work. AND THAT’S WHEN YOU REALIZE YOU SHOULD HAVE FOUGHT FOR IT.

Not Her, but it “your love for her”

Now that’s me

Look forward to your next topic…

Keep me straight “BIG”

By: wordsRmylife

wordsRmylife — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 02:39:19 +0000

BIG- I get what your saying because that is my biggest peeve..making a problem of something that was never a problem before. I wrote a topic on that very subject…the point i’m making with X-press’s comment is that I can understand why someone would give a strong effort to try and save their relationship, even if its false hope (most of the time it is)….. I’m just saying I get the mentality.

If you read some of my other topics you will see I often refer to Men as Big Daddy…so I apologize.I didn’t realize your title had a different meaning….but you know you still Big Daddy in my book!