Archive for January, 2009

Have You Been Directed or Re-directed To The Right Keeper?

Saturday, January 24th, 2009

toyagrn.JPGAt conception we are given one of the greatest gifts; a Heart. This Heart is given “brand new” and works for us immediately. Before we experience our first breath of life, your heart has already begun its task.

To say you have kept something close to your heart means you have guarded it as your own and made it part of you. To love someone with all of your heart is to say you trust that person with the one thing which makes you vulnerable. Your heart is the core of who you are. How is it that an instrument so important often gets placed in the wrong hands?

At birth our parents and caretakers are assigned as Keepers of our heart then at some point we are given authority; authority to keep our own Heart until we place it in the hands of someone. It is not realized how difficult this is until our heart is misplaced through many hands. The end result is: we become too restrictive or too careless.

In restriction, we are so untrusting it’s nearly impossible to discern placement. The fear of another broken heart grips us so strong that we refuse to let it go. In carelessness we are so desperate for a Keeper that we hand-over our heart to almost anyone. Knowingly, we place our heart into undeserving hands. Sometimes forcing it in hands of men who want nothing to do with it! Even in marriage you may discover that you gave the wrong person charge over your Heart. The Keeper of your Heart is your breast plate and shield. He recognizes your heart is fragile and does not seek to break it. He undoubtedly loves you and guards your heart with a passion. It’s his promise to you.

How are we directed or redirected to the right Keeper? It starts with you. This is one of the few areas you have total control over so use it wisely!
- Recognize the mistakes you make repeatedly in your Relationships. They are usually a reflection of your own fears and weakness and we tend to attach ourselves to men we think can fix or soothe them. The fix is only temporary and when the relationship ends you still have the same wound only now it’s’ bigger.
- Treat your own heart the way you expect it to be treated. That means falling in love with you first, but not in an arrogant sense. Take the time to learn you with the same excitement you would apply to learning about a new lover.
- Clean House: rid your heart of that old debris and trash that made it hard and heavy. Make it joyful again so that you attract like-kind.
Now your heart is ready to be released without any restrictions to the right Keeper. Have you been directed or re-directed to the right Keeper? I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl !


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What’s Your Formula For Extraordinary Sex?

Monday, January 12th, 2009

toyagrn.JPGMy Extraordinary Sex Series wraps up with the last five topics. I love writing about sex because I feel we have to be reminded of how sacred and intimate that component of our relationship is. It’s the only part of us that is not shared with other people. It’s that deep emotional and spiritual time set aside for us to commune with our spouse; a physical communication where our bodies express with one another.

How does something so intimate get pushed to the back burner? And, how does an extraordinary experience become so ordinary?

Keeping it sexy and thriving can be a goal when so much is demanded of your time. With children, career demands, and outside commitments, by the end of the day you’ve been pulled in so many directions that there isn’t much gas left in you to go on. You go to sleep and do the same thing the next day leaving no energy for the person who loves you the most.

Extraordinary sex is not about being Superman or Superwoman in the bedroom. It’s about remembering when sex with your spouse was incredible and unbelievable. You were open minded, uninhibited and willing to do almost anything to please your Love. If you take away one thing from this series, its’ Remember and Renew (I know ..that’s 2 things). Remembering how it feels to hear her moan for you when you awaken her zones, or the way her back arched when she felt that intensity pour from her G-spot. Remembering when foreplay was as rewarding as intercourse and routine never entered the bedroom and more importantly; renewing your passion for one another.

Now that I’ve given you my formula for extraordinary sex, what yours?…..I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl!

Godspeed
~Latoya~


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