Are You Ready to Talk About Your Fetish?

toyagrn.JPGEddie Murphy started something when his movie Boomerang hit theaters in 1992. Brothas’ across the Nation could come clean about their fixation towards Women’s feet. Finally, they were given permission to admit to their fetish.

We are a peculiar culture of people. As vocal and dominant as we are, we tend to linger in the shadows when we find enjoyment with things of a sexual nature considered or labeled “taboo”. I’m sure Black men have always had a fetish about Women’s feet, but seeing another Black Man (Murphy) speak so candidly about this obsession; now made it “cool “conversation.

My last topic, I promised to elaborate on my Whip:toyas-whip.JPG From the moment I purchased it, I have had a fixation with Dominating (Shh..Don’t tell anyone). I mean black leather outfit, knee-high stiletto boots, and the whole shebang! When I made the proper introduction to Big Daddy, he shook his head and gave me the “what now?” look. I suppose he thought in addition to having to survive another one of my “experiments”, he would have to get his ass whooped as well. My husband is definitely the Alpha Male in my house. Me, trying to get him to “bitch down” was NOT going to happen, period! So……I politely handed him the whip then his whole expression changed. Now it was all good, seriously ….for both of us.

It’s amazing how many of us have a fetish yet are apprehensive to talk about it. With the materialization of the internet, I understand why no one would want to be associated with the word “fetish”. I’ve seen some things that made me say, “Ewww” (yes, even me) and even I won’t go there! BUT for us long-term Relationship-ers, it’s mandatory that we strive to keep the bedroom alive and our conversations open.

Just think, if Big Daddy hadn’t put a ring on it; today, I probably would be “Mistress Toya” reminding you that you’ve been a bad boy (smile, whip cracking).

O.k. Good People, it’s time to open up the conversation and Holla at ya Gyrl. The question I pose today is simple: Are you ready to talk about your Fetish? I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl !

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5 Responses to “Are You Ready to Talk About Your Fetish?”

  1. janel watt says:

    wow, good topic. i have a pleasant issue with role playing. nothing that would be out of the ordinary or weird, but just great build up and scenarios. enough said….

  2. wordsRmylife says:

    Janel,

    I love the build up as well. That’s why I put my husband through so many “experiments”(lol). Its all for the build up of tension…nice tension and the release.

  3. janel watt says:

    I may have some “Dom” type stuff going on in a few weeks. Right now is still the introduction stage of it. Happy me.

  4. Michael Sanford says:

    Both of yall some freaks damm im kicking myself for being shy in high school lol. Now im all grown up and enjoy the BDSM lifestyle I started out as a Dom and now have evolved into a Master. The fetishes are fun but make no mistake its more than just fetishes. It is a real love affair with your partner. Some in the D/s relationship are even husband and wife.

  5. wordsRmylife says:

    @Michael..I’m obsessed with my whip…Does that mean I have a little BDSM in me?

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