Archive for June, 2009

Can you fill the “shoes” of Big Daddy?

Sunday, June 21st, 2009

toyagrn.JPGIt’s obvious my advocacy rest on the hearts of Men. Hence my topics are filled with reference to Big Daddy. I repeatedly talk about; taking care of Big Daddy, putting Big Daddy first, being Big Daddy’s girlfriend etc… I haven’t met a man yet who doesn’t smile and hold out his chest when I acknowledge him as Big Daddy. This got me thinking: Maybe I should elaborate on what it takes to be Big Daddy.

There are those who title themselves Big Daddy and there are those who LIVE Big Daddy. In my writings, I speak for those who LIVE Big Daddy. There are benefits and responsibilities to this role. Every Man wants the benefits but few absorb the responsibility. Big Daddy does what he has to do to provide for his family and that’s the bottom line. In his house hold he accepts the weight of keeping the mortgage/ bills paid, and food on the table.

Where us Ladies like to show off our diamond rings and trinkets, Big Daddy‘s pride lies in the presentation of his home, his Woman and his children. He works all day every day, smiling in the presence of his crappy bosses when he really wants to tell them to go…you know. When the budget is tight he places his needs on the back burner to make certain his family is lacking nothing. At his woman’s request, Big Daddy will sit with her and all her cackling friends subjected to mindless conversation when he would rather hang with the fellas; wear hot ass suits in the Summer to attend the weddings of people he don’t even know; sit through chic flicks, and Disney movies, need I say more?

What’s most important is at the end of the day, when the dishes are washed, kids are sleep and the house is shut down for the evening, Big Daddy is still on his job….taking care of Big Mama so she can have a restful slumber (but that’s the fun part). Big Fist in the air to those who LIVE Big Daddy…Happy Fathers Day.

Oops..I almost forgot the question! O.k. Ladies, if you have a Big Daddy in your life, time to make it known. Put him on blast right now.
Fellas, if you LIVE Big Daddy I want to hear from you! Ya’ll know what to do…I’m listening…now Holla at ya Gyrl !

Isn’t it time to back up those Cackling Hens?

Saturday, June 6th, 2009

t.bmpIn our Love-ships we all need a shoulder to cry on and an ear burn out. Our girlfriends are heavily relied on to be our advocates, confidantes and personal “Amen” section in times of crisis. This kinship of support is vital; but girlfriend can I tell you something?

Keep those cackling hens out of your relationship!

Yeah I said it! Now exhale—–> ahhh < ----- and unravel your face. Many of you allow your “girlfriends” to have more say-so in your life than you’re man. There is definitely a special place reserved for them but not in marriages or relationships. The key word is “in”. You and Big Daddy are (((IN))) a relationship. Your girlfriends play the sideline position. What does that mean? They are SUPPORT ONLY. God made clear his intentions in the book of Genesis. First he created the Earth, then Adam, then Adams’ help meet; Eve. If God felt Eve needed an ally, he would have also created Jennifer to hang around and suck the life out of Adam and Eve’s relationship. Your girlfriends wish you well however they may be a little extra protective of your heart because it’s been broken a few times. Your job is to back them up a little so that Big Daddy knows without a doubt he is….Umm….Big.

I know it’s hard to let go of those Friday nights, Saturday afternoon soirees, day to day gossip and popping up at each other’s homes; you made a pact with your girls that you would never put them on the back burner, right? Well, you are in a relationship now therefore the dynamic of how your girlfriends fit into your life is changed. This is not a sad moment so pick your face up. Just think, at least 50% of our girlfriend time is spent talking about;

- Finding a good man
- Being cheated on by a man
- Leaving a no-good man
- Just met a man
- Somebody else’s man
- Man, man, man….

Now you get to spend your 50% talking about how Big Daddy keeps that smile on your face. Isn’t that beautiful?

Ladies, what role do your girlfriends play in your relationship?
Fella’s, do you feel like a third party in your own relationship?

Let your heart speak...I’m listening ….Holla at ya Gyrl!


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