If the institution of marriage has failed you, perhaps it’s because of instituted beliefs and traditions superfluous to the foundation of marriage. Let’s examine the word Institute. It is to operate under establishment: something instituted is under authoritative rule or precedence.
The concept of marriage has become more about conformity and expectation rather than development of a Relationship. As soon as we join in Holy Matrimony, the word relationship leaves our vocabulary all together. It’s as if the top of the mountain is reached and there is nothing left to work on. Prior to marriage, when we are in “relationship” our behavior toward each other is so accommodating and gracious. We understand that sometimes a compromise is necessary to work through issues; we respect our differences. In “relationship” your love is avowed and there is no room for uncertainties…. Then…. we enter the Institution of Marriage and all the gratitude turns into attitude and enrapture changes to entitlement. We interpret that Deed to mean: “I own you and with this contract you must abide by the laws of my wants!” There is no asking; only demanding. Winning a disagreement becomes bigger than the issue at hand. This Institution makes a woman believe her husband doesn’t love her if he’s empty handed on Valentine’s Day, as if the other 364 days meant nothing. This Institution makes a man feel if he isn’t firmly dictating the decree in his home, he has no control of it. I don’t understand the shift to a totalitarian state of mind.
When we enter in union, an eminent more spiritual level of relationship is approached. In order for that to grow, it must be nurtured. What am I saying? There is a RELATIONSHIP that continues to build after marriage and it’s far more personal than an Institution.
I may be against the Institution of Marriage however I am 100% for the Relationship of Marriage.
A woman’s body is truly a work of art. Equipped with all its bumps, curves, valleys and mountains, it isn’t difficult to understand why a woman’s physique has its own symbolism. With symbolism comes power/influence and when you know how to work them, Gyrlfriend you can change the world! Technically speaking, it has already been done. God made clear his orders when he told Adam he could eat fruit from any tree in the Garden of Eden except the apple tree in the corner with the serpent crawling around it. Adam was doing fine until one day Eve walked up with an apple in her hand, swaying her hips and hypnotizing him with her Coca Cola bottle curves. Every-thing his Father told him went out the window..or out the Garden. From this, two lessons were learned;
