The dummy down effect of Men has hit us like a doubled-edged sword. Television, print ads, and Hollywood have successfully sent the message that men are literally akin to Cave Men. Dogs in Heat used to be the acceptable adage but now you can add; Mindless, and Mentally Challenged to the resume.
Our ignorance about a Man’s heart is….well….downright ignorant! Yes, Men are more cosmetically attracted to women than we are to men; it’s the way our puzzle pieces fit together. A Woman’s beauty is the lure, but it isn’t the food. If your goal is to lock yourself in the Woman/Wife position and not be admonished as a lifetime Booty-Call or Side-Piece let me suggest you step your game up and dig deeper than your beauty. The man focusing his attention on you is not with you solely because your weave is tight, make-up flawless, and your figure is nice. Gone are the days one can aspire to be a Trophy Woman. In today’s world where perfection can be purchased at every corner cosmetic surgery center, the competition is massive!
I have had many conversations with women dumbfounded they’ve been left behind and the new Boo is mediocre in comparison. What sets you apart from others, has everything to do with your personality, conversation, drive, compassion and your heart. It is engaging when a man knows you can mingle in any circle without his assistance, are invested in your future, keep your bills paid and your house in order, and the ability to cook a meal never hurts either. Even if he hasn’t expressed this upfront, please know he is observing and taking notes.
If you want a man who is about something, definitely assume his search is for a woman who is about something as well.
That’s my word, now it’s your turn to Holla at ya Gyrl !
They are so wonderful about not stepping into our territory and allowing us shine. Why not do the same for them?