Posts Tagged ‘Sex’

Can you take all 5?

Friday, February 26th, 2010

toya09I’m absolutely awestruck with how amazing our bodies are. Because we are born in our skin it’s so easy to take this beautiful, intelligent, creation for granted. Our sense of taste allows us to differentiate between a strawberry and a cherry; a steak and a hot dog; sweet potato pie and peach cobbler. Sight gives us the visual acuity to see life in High Definition with all its depth of color. Smell allows the experience of pleasant aromas. Sound gives us the enjoyment of melody; and Touch…yeah, we all know what happens when we’re touched the right way, in the right places. Since these five senses are not for practicality alone, let’s explore the pleasure of all five.

Sense of touch and sight are utilized most in the bedroom. Whether its direct or through your mind’s eye the body is responsive to what you see then you want to touch what has awakened that sense. As the sensation of sight and touch overtake us; we rush to give in to our animal instinct. For most, intercourse begins here with the rest of the senses being benched again! However this would be the perfect time to stop and slooowwww down. While your lips travel through curves and valleys, inhale slowly and allow your most primitive sense to awaken; smell.

The pheromones being released by your partner draw you into a higher state of arousal. These Human chemicals are commanding enough to override any inhibitions you may have, therefore use this to stimulate the ears. Have you ever had or gave a good ear-gasm? The reality of people paying to hear sex-talk illustrates how powerful voice is. To some there is nothing greater than hearing, their partner tell them (in a very very very explicit manner) what is going to be done to their body. Speak your desires and intentions into the ear and see how quickly the body prepares for the last sense of stimulus; Taste.

Ready to experience all 5?…I’m listeniing…Holla at ya Gyrl!

Have You Made the Proper Introduction?

Tuesday, May 5th, 2009

toyagrn.JPGYears ago a friend of mine hosted a Naughty Girl party. Never having been to one, I had only heard it was like an Avon or Princess House gathering but with Adult products. Staring at my invitation even more curious than before, I checked Will Attend and placed the response card in the mail.

While the Consultant gave her spiel on why we Ladies shouldn’t be embarrassed about purchasing love toys, I eyed the table with fascination. Jack Rabbits, High intensity, Low or No Intensity, neon colors, butterflies, circulating motion etc..The varieties of dildos were impressive; seriously, back then I had no idea there were so many different types, yet I wasn’t as excited as everyone else about buying one. The idea of a quickie with some “thing” I was supposed to give a Pet name was not appealing to me. My plan was to chat a few minutes, browse (as a courtesy) and bounce. As I browsed my way to the door, I saw it. Yes…I saw something I could not take my eyes off. Sitting on a corner table by itself was a black leather whip with soft suede tassels. I felt bonded the moment I wrapped my little fingers around the handle. I left a check for $25.00 and walked out the house, whip in hand.

I later changed my attitude about dildos after discovering they are not solely for the solo act. I found that my whip along with toys (purchased later) were/are very useful in the bedroom and add extra fun to foreplay. Not only does it allow for multiple orgasms, but the use of toys are a great way for Big Daddy to put a slow burn on the Zones; keeping all those electrical impulses in your body, well…pulsating. If you haven’t introduced Big Daddy to “artificial daddy” there are a few rules you must FIRST know;

1. The size of your toy should not in any way, shape or length be bigger than Big Daddy
2. When you erupt during foreplay, all praises must go to Big Daddy
3. Aside from the occasional “emergency” never give it up to the toy more than you give it to Big Daddy
4. Please don’t name your toy. Big Daddy is the Alpha Male, period!

Oh, and the Whip??? Yeah I discovered a new side of me which I will elaborate on in my next topic. Today I’m asking the question;

Ladies: Are you selfish or bestowing with your toys?
Big Daddies: Have you been properly introduced? I’m listening…Holla at ya Gyrl !

Ladies, Do You Respect and Appreciate Your Prize?

Sunday, February 1st, 2009

toyagrn.JPGIt never fails! Whenever I’m in the company of women who are long time Relation-shippers, the conversation always re-directs to weight or sex. Not sex the way I spin it, more like Government sex. Government sex is sex that is issued out like a welfare check; once per month. While your time and energy is placed on making your hair-do last till your next appointment, shopping for clothes or stuff you don’t need and catching up with your girlfriends; a man who loves YOU and worships the ground YOU walk on patiently waits for his Government issue.

We take on the attitude and belief our Nani is priceless. It is when we are deciding who we want to share it with, but once you choose and commit, the Nani comes off the shelf. To hold back is to have given it away under false pretense! If my memory serves me right, the Nani is at her best with its counterpart: the penis. I’ve played with toys before but nothing and I mean ab-so-lute-ly nothing takes the place of a man’s body on top of you guiding and directing his own penis until you strain your vocal chords. My point?….There is just as much power in the penis as is the Nani so show some respect and appreciation. You can start by;

– Waking up with him before he goes to work and giving him full access. His penis is already wide awake so it’s an effortless gesture.
-Thank him for knowing how to use his penis to make your body tremble and shake uncontrollably.
-Right when his is leaving for work, give him two kisses. One on the lips and one on his…you know what’s up.

Be grateful he can rise up just by watching you move around the house. That’s a compliment to your sexy. Reward him but realize you are the one getting the prize.

Ladies do you respect and appreciate your prize? Fella’s I want to hear from you too. I wanna know if you feel your Trophy is being appreciated! I’m listening…Holla at ya Gyrl !

Godspeed….Latoya

What’s Your Formula For Extraordinary Sex?

Monday, January 12th, 2009

toyagrn.JPGMy Extraordinary Sex Series wraps up with the last five topics. I love writing about sex because I feel we have to be reminded of how sacred and intimate that component of our relationship is. It’s the only part of us that is not shared with other people. It’s that deep emotional and spiritual time set aside for us to commune with our spouse; a physical communication where our bodies express with one another.

How does something so intimate get pushed to the back burner? And, how does an extraordinary experience become so ordinary?

Keeping it sexy and thriving can be a goal when so much is demanded of your time. With children, career demands, and outside commitments, by the end of the day you’ve been pulled in so many directions that there isn’t much gas left in you to go on. You go to sleep and do the same thing the next day leaving no energy for the person who loves you the most.

Extraordinary sex is not about being Superman or Superwoman in the bedroom. It’s about remembering when sex with your spouse was incredible and unbelievable. You were open minded, uninhibited and willing to do almost anything to please your Love. If you take away one thing from this series, its’ Remember and Renew (I know ..that’s 2 things). Remembering how it feels to hear her moan for you when you awaken her zones, or the way her back arched when she felt that intensity pour from her G-spot. Remembering when foreplay was as rewarding as intercourse and routine never entered the bedroom and more importantly; renewing your passion for one another.

Now that I’ve given you my formula for extraordinary sex, what yours?…..I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl!

Godspeed
~Latoya~


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Is It Time To Re-new Your Passion?

Monday, December 29th, 2008

toyagrn.JPGHaving passion for pleasing your Love automatically elevates a sexual experience from regular to extraordinary. To be passionate about pleasing your partner means its not just a goal, it’s a personal mission!

As years progress and we add mileage to our relationships, the passion we once had when making love tends to slowly fade. Mind blowing marathon sessions have withered to a race to the finish. For a woman, nothing is worse than having sex with her husband and feeling as if she were never part of the act. I can only imagine for a man, nothing is worse than feeling as if your having sex with a stranger who has no attraction for you. But that is what it comes down to when all passion has gone. Sex becomes a regular mechanism rather than an extraordinary experience.

Renewing passion for one another starts with remembering. Remembering those emotions running rampant in your body when you anticipated sex. It wasn’t enough to screw until you cum. You had to know every part of her; how she taste, her scent, the way her skin felt against yours. There was passion for how you wanted to make her feel and when you made love to her all that emotion transferred from your spirit to hers and she felt the depth of you.

Ladies renew your passion for your man by remembering how you felt when you wanted to do anything and everything for him. You could care less what people thought of you because all that mattered is that Big Daddy had all his desires fulfilled. He didn’t even have to ask you to give the “other Daddy” attention. You anticipated it all day and couldn’t wait to get home and drop to your knees. Passion is so powerful, that everything which sprouts from it is extraordinary and effortless. This one is simple. All you have to do is remember then re-new.

I’m asking the question; Is it time to re-new your passion?………I’m listening……Holla at ya Gyrl!

Godspeed
~Latoya~

Ready To Play?

Wednesday, December 17th, 2008

t.bmpCan sex be extraordinary without foreplay? Foreplay is the most powerful prelude to intercourse and an art to appreciate. What other act is capable of bringing the heat without any physical contact what so ever? It’s not only about caressing nipples and teasing the clitoris or the head of the penis…that’s great, but not extraordinary. Extraordinary is having the ability to immerse your partner’s mind, set the scene, and excite the body before you even touch it. Yes I said it! BEFORE you even touch it.

When an Artist is ready to paint his masterpiece, he doesn’t just throw colors about. Total focus and commitment is placed on his vision before the brush meets the canvas. Some of us are not even privy to “regular” foreplay. For you, foreplay may have began as unbelievable excitement then over the years digressed to the mechanical “bump, bump” in the middle of night; you lifting your leg, and him entering. You wake up trying to remember if you had sex at all!

It is said the mind is the human body’s best erogenous zone. So why not arouse it with your foreplay and a good mind phuc? Our world today is all about communication. We have emails, texting, cell phones; instant messaging…the range is broad so use it.

Imagine reading an explicit message from your Woman explaining in detail how she is going to handle Big Daddy’s ….umm….Missile. Would you agree she has just captivated your mind and initiated extraordinary foreplay? Now, what if she showed up on your lunch break to make it happen? Would you be ready to play?….I’m listening…Holla at ya Gyrl!

Godspeed
~Latoya~

Are You Ready To Shake The Routine?

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008

t.bmpEstablishing a routine is necessary when going about your day to day life but having routine and predictable sex is quite boring. Some of us are on “routine sex” cruise control and don’t even realize it. Elevating “regular” sex to an extraordinary level takes small effort and reasonable creativity. A few adjustments to your routine is enough to move back into the category of exciting. Let’s explore some ways to break the monotony.

 How about getting out of the bedroom?! Remember the saying “location, location, location.” This holds true with sex as well. There is nothing routine about experiencing sex on demand. So next time you want it, don’t wait until you get home to the “married” bed, figure out a way to have it…on demand.

 Turn up the heat by giving her a full palm smack on the a$$ while stroking her from the back. The smack has to be firm enough to feel the wave of heat, but soft enough that she will welcome another.

 Ladies, last thing your husband will expect to see after a long day at work and years of marriage is you waiting for him wearing sexy lingerie or your birthday suit paired with the highest heels you can manage. You are much more than the mother of his children so stop acting like that’s your only role!…oh and make sure you give him a proper greeting too. :)

Hey Routine Happens to all of us, even me! The challenge is recognizing when its time for a change then making it happen. Are you ready to shake the routine? I’m listening…Holla at ya Gyrl!

Have You Experienced The “G”?

Monday, November 24th, 2008

toyapnk.JPGI want to spend a few topics focusing on the different types of Orgasms a woman can have. We all know about the most common ones like vaginal and clitoral. Although any type of Orgasm a woman is able to experience without faking is good, I want to get out of “regular” and delve into Intense and extraordinary. This is an area where Men rule because Men are guaranteed to ejaculate with EVERY sexual experience they have, bottom line. With Women it’s not always that easy so we get a broader spectrum of alternatives and the Men in our lives have the exclusive opportunity to gift us with an orgasm. This week I have chosen to talk about the “G”.

Much debate still continues over whether the G-spot exists. At this point in my life I’m convinced that Women who feel the G-spot is a myth has never experienced an orgasm from the G, and Men who agree the G-spot is a myth have no clue how to find it. Patience is a Virtue when locating the G, because if you have never been there it’s likely you won’t find it if you give up too quickly. The worst thing you can do is become so fixated on trying to find your woman’s G-spot that your sexual experience with her becomes sterile and rigid as opposed to a sensual journey.

A G-spot orgasm is more intense and heightened than a vaginal one. You will know when you hit your woman’s G-spot because she will release a sound unlike any you have ever heard and her back will arch so high even you will be amazed! Now let’s find it.

Women can also locate their own G-spot, but for the purpose of clarity, I’m writing this with the intention of a couple doing this together. First, slowly insert your finger (s) inside the Nani crooking it forward in a “come here” motion until you are up to the second knuckle. The texture of her vagina should feel slightly bumpy or ridged. That’s when you know you have entered the “G”. The other tell tale sign is that is that her breathing and movement is noticeably heavier.

She won’t orgasm immediately but she will lose ALL control of her body. The intensity of her orgasm depends on the pressure you give to get her there. It varies. This is something you will have to experiment with. If her G-spot is swollen, she is already fully aroused and the blood has rushed to that area. She is on the brink of orgasm and your “come here” motion should start at least at medium to heavy pressure. That’s it! All you have to remember is “come here”.

Ladies have you experienced the “G”? Fella’s can you stimulate the “G” and give your woman one of the most incredible orgasms ever?…I’m listening…Holla at ya Gyrl !

Can I Whisper In Your Ear?

Friday, October 31st, 2008

toya2.JPGI saw a movie a couple of weeks ago and it was a pretty good movie, but something was missing. I couldn’t figure out what it was but I knew, instinctively, I would enjoy this movie even more if it wasn’t void of …something.

Then it hit me at the ending …there was no music. No symphony leading me to the next scene and no suspense chord to set the tone. It made me realize the importance of music in a movie and how a scenes pace is set with sound and tone.

I link this analogy with Sex and sound. I’m very expressive in the bedroom especially with sound. Like a movie paced by it’s music, it takes no effort to figure out what stage of arousal I’m in and the amount of pleasure I’m experiencing. Vocal expression, sex-talk, and pace of breath are as much of the experience as is intercourse. But for vocal expression to be truly appreciated, it has to be natural and valid. Trying to squeal louder than Jenna Jameson or Heather Hunter before your man has even inserted is phony and fraudulent. Your man knows the difference between an exaggerated sound and a real one, so please don’t insult his intelligence.

To be successful in giving your man a superlative mind phuc, you have to first establish your level of comfort and willingness to surrender your reservations to all those erogenous zones your man is inciting. If you’re saying in your head, “I like that”, let those words whisper from your lips into his ear and he will continue with an enthusiastic boost. Throw away all discomfort and apprehension. Give your self permission to moan, exhale, encourage, and boldly tell him;

“I want you to hurt the…”

Whew!….you know what I mean…What was I talking about? Oh yeah, releasing your melodic, harmonious, pleasure sounds so that your love making isn’t void of ANYTHING!

Is Vocal Expression important to you? I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl !

Godspeed
~Latoya~

Why Won’t You Let Your Husband Have His Girlfriend?

Monday, October 13th, 2008

jus-me.JPGThe moment you read my question you probably thought I had officially lost my mind…yeah, I know what you’re thinking too. No, I haven’t lost mind and yes, I said it! YOU need to LET your Husband have his girlfriend.

Remember when you used to be his girlfriend years ago? You did what ever you had to do to make sure you were available to answer his phone calls. When you said “hello” into the receiver the tone of your voice changed immediately to a sultry purr. He knew he was Daddy and Daddy couldn’t wait to see his Girlfriend. He loved when you used to wear those low cut tops and the “girls” peeked out just enough to tantalize. He was licking his lips enjoying that appetizer. Then when you turned to walk away from him and swayed your ass the only way a sista’ can, he was hypnotized. You were flawless in your simulation of cluelessness.

Why did you stop being his Girlfriend?

I applaud you for being a wonderful Mother to your children as well as a faithful, dedicated wife to your Husband, but it’s not enough. In your quest to accomplish one goal, you lost sight of the basics which is being your husband’s Girlfriend. Take your mentality back to Girlfriend mode, when you were fighting for his last name. You wanted to feed him, nurse him, nurture him, sex him, taste him and love him. You wanted him deep inside you and while he was there you kept him going talking all nasty in his ear.

Why did you stop being his Girlfriend?

You don’t always have to cook a 3 course meal & tire yourself out before Daddy comes home. Order take-out, skip the laundry and put the kids to bed early. If you can’t get them to bed, be creative. Put on their favorite DVD and take your husband to the bathroom for a quickie. If you really want to keep it sexy and Girlfriend-ish, Go Deep and watch that sparkle return to his eyes.

Are you ready to let him have his Girlfriend? …..Holla at ya Gyrl !

Godspeed
~Latoya~