Posts Tagged ‘woman’

Do you believe you have the power to change the future?

Tuesday, December 8th, 2009

toya09A woman’s body is truly a work of art. Equipped with all its bumps, curves, valleys and mountains, it isn’t difficult to understand why a woman’s physique has its own symbolism. With symbolism comes power/influence and when you know how to work them, Gyrlfriend you can change the world! Technically speaking, it has already been done. God made clear his orders when he told Adam he could eat fruit from any tree in the Garden of Eden except the apple tree in the corner with the serpent crawling around it. Adam was doing fine until one day Eve walked up with an apple in her hand, swaying her hips and hypnotizing him with her Coca Cola bottle curves. Every-thing his Father told him went out the window..or out the Garden. From this, two lessons were learned;

1. Women have the power to change the future, and;
2. Men really do think with their…eh em…you know what I mean.

With power comes responsibility and aside from a few hiccups, history shows we have used our power for the greater good. Imagine a soldier on the battle field. Needing a mental break from the chaos, he seeks a moment of solace so he can get his head back in the game. From his pocket comes a scented photo of whom???? That’s right, his Woman. He’s just been given all the power he needs to shift into second gear. After a rough day at work a man wants to come home, kick his feet up and see what???? …the beautiful smiling face of his Woman; preferably with a drink in her hand. Women were born with everything necessary to make this world a better place; no assembly required.

However as time went on we allowed “Invaders” to spew their empty rhetoric making a Woman feel shameful for being her natural self. These Invaders damned you for keeping yourself pretty and utilizing your womanly influence. Us Ladies were convinced that in order to make it in this world we had to dress like men, walk like men and talk like men. It wasn’t enough to do what we were born to do; now we had to compete with men and flex our muscle as well. Then the Mother lode of them all (drum roll): The Invaders convinced Women that we can conceive and raise children all by ourselves.

Like my Grand Mama would say, “Mmmm…Mmmm…Mmmm.”

As Daughters of this earth and the balance of Man, a woman’s power is strongest when we walk in our shoes, not His. Our curves and soft features command attention so that we do not have to speak. Our hearts were made to forgive, nurture, love, encourage, strengthen and protect. We are gifted with the ability to persuade, control and change the hearts of men. How quickly we forget…….. Eve changed the future with an apple and her natural self.

Now I’m asking you: Do you believe you have the power to change the future?…I’m listening..Holla at ya Gyrl!

Can you fill the “shoes” of Big Daddy?

Sunday, June 21st, 2009

toyagrn.JPGIt’s obvious my advocacy rest on the hearts of Men. Hence my topics are filled with reference to Big Daddy. I repeatedly talk about; taking care of Big Daddy, putting Big Daddy first, being Big Daddy’s girlfriend etc… I haven’t met a man yet who doesn’t smile and hold out his chest when I acknowledge him as Big Daddy. This got me thinking: Maybe I should elaborate on what it takes to be Big Daddy.

There are those who title themselves Big Daddy and there are those who LIVE Big Daddy. In my writings, I speak for those who LIVE Big Daddy. There are benefits and responsibilities to this role. Every Man wants the benefits but few absorb the responsibility. Big Daddy does what he has to do to provide for his family and that’s the bottom line. In his house hold he accepts the weight of keeping the mortgage/ bills paid, and food on the table.

Where us Ladies like to show off our diamond rings and trinkets, Big Daddy‘s pride lies in the presentation of his home, his Woman and his children. He works all day every day, smiling in the presence of his crappy bosses when he really wants to tell them to go…you know. When the budget is tight he places his needs on the back burner to make certain his family is lacking nothing. At his woman’s request, Big Daddy will sit with her and all her cackling friends subjected to mindless conversation when he would rather hang with the fellas; wear hot ass suits in the Summer to attend the weddings of people he don’t even know; sit through chic flicks, and Disney movies, need I say more?

What’s most important is at the end of the day, when the dishes are washed, kids are sleep and the house is shut down for the evening, Big Daddy is still on his job….taking care of Big Mama so she can have a restful slumber (but that’s the fun part). Big Fist in the air to those who LIVE Big Daddy…Happy Fathers Day.

Oops..I almost forgot the question! O.k. Ladies, if you have a Big Daddy in your life, time to make it known. Put him on blast right now.
Fellas, if you LIVE Big Daddy I want to hear from you! Ya’ll know what to do…I’m listening…now Holla at ya Gyrl !

Can I Tell You What I Need?

Sunday, November 16th, 2008

toyapnk.JPGWomen are the most complex creatures God created. I imagine that when God realized Adam needed a help meet (Gen 2:18 KJV) even He may have rested his thumb and index finger on his chin, shook his head side to side, looked at all his holy materials and thought, “Where do I start?”

From Adams’ rib God created the only Helper and supporter you will ever need on this Earth. How else would we be able to fight you, love you, feed you, nurture you, smile for you (even when you don’t deserve one), and live with stretch marks for you?

When we truly love you, we are a damn good help meet. We know your needs whether you verbally express them or not, but….what we are not so good at is expressing what we need from you. In that aspect, we operate more on an emotional level than a practical one. Instead of just saying, “I need you to pay more attention to me,” we hope that you read our minds, our body language, heed our subtle sometimes enormous hints, or notice anything that will make you ask, “what’s wrong?”. Then….when you comply and ask the magic question, we reply with a pathetic, “nothing.” Which 99.9% of the time ALWAYS means it’s….. something!

Can I speak for myself and maybe a few other women and tell you what we need? What I need?

I need you to hug me first, hold me tight for no reason at all, tell me I’m beautiful, kiss me the way you used to, talk to me, trust me with your fears, surprise me with a gift, call me in the middle of the day and tell me how much you miss me, play with me, laugh with me, make love to me passionately, listen to me, be interested in me, & be my protector.

Me Me Me!…I know it may sound a little Me “ish”, but whether you choose to acknowledge it or not, this is what we need from you & likely won’t tell you.

Are we asking too much?…I’m listening, now Holla at ya Gyrl !

Godspeed
~Latoya~